One of my 5 favorite children who is a website designer is working on a complete overhaul of the Esther’s Girls website. The card shown here may be a feature on it. We’ll all have to wait and see what works best. I like the short and sweet sentiment a lot. And I loved Leo B. There’s a great series of lectures on love, but I’ve opted for a shorter lecture below.
I’ve been struggling with an issue that has dogged me for years. What happens when we don’t live up to the expectations that people in our lives have of us? My former son-in-law used to say about when we assume; it causes us to make an ass of you and me. Somehow other people’s expectations should have the same sort of pithy and sarcastic explanation, in my opinion.
What happens when we think BIG, and those around us think differently? Or don’t understand our reasoning? Or just plain refuse to accept us? These are all difficult questions. If we listen to Leo’s lectures, he’d tell us to FORGIVE, to LOVE anyway, to THINK BIG and the hell with them. This is hard stuff. Ultimately, I believe we must learn who we are, how we operate, what our values are, and what we want out of life. When I asked my beautiful friend Sherrie when this difficult self-discovery work will be complete, she answered, “If we’re lucky, when we die.” Why should we work until our death on self-discovery? Why is it so important? Philosophers have pondered and answered this question. For Ralph Waldo Emerson in 1831, in a poem he wrote to know oneself was to know the God he felt existed in each of us. For me; asking the question leads to a magical mystery tour of myself, life , the universe and everything. This last line is my reverence to author Douglas Adams and his book, Life, the Universe and Everything, 1982, and of course, The Beatles.
Have the Courage to Think Big


Last week I finished reading Robert B. Parker’s last book [I think], which was a very rewarding read. His unique voice, writing style, characterization, and the on-going love affair with his wife as portrayed in his Spenser novels, were all in evidence. The book; Sixkill, published by his estate this year, kept me wide awake until I finished it.
Last week I also caught up with a dear friend, of many years now, but we speak infrequently. She was delighted to hear my voice. She said I sound the same as ever. It seems to me, we humans have patterns that we stick to and that make us recognizable to others. And yet…I also believe very strongly that we’re capable of change. If you watch the video below, the boat captain, Vincent Ardolino says; “I have one theory in life; I never want to say the word[s], I should have. If I do it and I fail, I tried. If I do it and I succeed, better for me. I tell my children the same thing. Never go through life saying I should have. If you want to do something, you should.”
At the most recent craft show, I met a courageous woman. I gave her a journal and told her to write, write, write. Also to keep in touch. I praised her for continuing on a difficult life journey. Some of us are tested far beyond what we can imagine. I’ve come to believe that whether we have what it takes, inherently, to face difficulties in life, or we experience situations that stretch us- somehow we can learn resilience. We can and should try to deal and overcome what threatens our little pocket of safety. We have to try!
BTW- photo above; knitted collage sold at show. If I hadn’t tried, it wouldn’t have happened.

Complaining about students getting equal billing in high school yearbooks, is psychology professor Jean Twenge [article, NYTimes, 11-7-2010]. She said; “Having everyone get equal time is the equivalent of everyone gets a trophy, or we’re not going to keep score, or even if we do, everyone’s trophy is the same size. There’s no resemblance to real life.”
I beg to differ with her. In Special Olympics every contender receives a ribbon for every event in which they participate. I’ve seen a race with 12 people, happily competing and receiving ribbons with first through 12th place winner printed on them. Note the key word there: WINNER.
Most folks who compete in Special Olympics do it for the social rewards and because they can. At the finish line of EVERY event is a group of people who volunteer to clap and cheer on the winners – all the winners — everyone who competes. Is there no place for most humans to go beside competing with each other to see who is the biggest winner?
Every person ever born is unique, different, capable; each in their own way. That’s real life, and so is a concept called sympathetic joy. “You would think as healthy human beings we would be concerned about others’ good fortune and happy to respect their preferences and choices. When we have a genuine regard for ourselves we naturally extend that by wishing others success. Mudita is a Sanskrit term meaning ‘sympathetic joy,’ or taking joy in other people’s happiness and well-being.” ( Why do we feel good…10-18-2010)
Now in that light I present you with retired British politician, Ann Wittecombe, who has appeared on Britain’s Strictly Come Dancing, on the BBC television network. Prepare yourself, should you choose to watch the video clip below. This brave woman is heavy and can barely dance, but she has self-confidence and courage!!!